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Quit blaming Ulema and start to write your own destiny

By Abdul Hannan Siwani Nadvi for TwoCircles.net
As the age of research work, quality education and divine power that had been empowering Muslims to face the challenges of every era moved out from them all over the world, another tendency has grown very rapidly among Muslims. It is the tendency to push the blame on the Ulema, holding them accountable for every failure, pointing fingers towards some specific Islamic laws, declaring the syllabus being taught in Madrasas and religious institutions as outdated and terming Madrasas as a symbol of old age – which is seen especially in the Muslim community in India.
The Sachar Commission report makes the air clear about Madrasas - the percentage of Muslims who approach Madrasas for education is only 4, even the financial condition of Madrasas, teachers and students who study there is not much better. As it is known to all Muslims, Madrasas, except for some, have no good infrastructure due to very bad financial conditions as they are run solely by donations from Muslims. In such an atmosphere, is it just to expect the 4% to solve all the problems of Muslims, the problems being plenty?
Laziness, dullness, distancing themselves from hard work, selecting short-cut ways to make money, wasting time in watching films and TV programs, or taking part in unnecessary works and making themselves busy in nonsense subjects, or trying to get awards and fame by making comments against the Ulema – indeed all these paved the way for majority of Muslims to put the Ulema on target so that the latter can cover their failure and no one would blame them for the deteriorating situation of Muslims in India.
Pushing the blame on Ulema and pointing the finger towards Madrasas is a very easy task, but conceding our own faults and mistakes is very hard work for most of us. Do we forget what our behavior with the Ulema and Madrasas are? How do the Madrasa people get donations and how do they collect it from every Muslim so that they can arrange a free education to poor Muslims in Madrasas?
Is collecting donations an easy work? When the representatives of Madrasas knock the doors of Muslim homes and ask some donation for Madrasas, during the month of Ramzan or in normal days, what do most of us do? Why do we misbehave with them? Why do we treat them as if they were beggars? Even my own personal experience is very harsh; very few people treat them with respect and dignity, most of us close the door before them, some of us make excuses. Some of us ask them to come after two hours and when the representatives come after two hours, they are said there is nobody in the home and asked to come the next day. When these representatives come again, we do not open the door, or they are told from the window to go away and never to come. Some of us tell them we are against Madrasas, hence we will not give any donation. And if some agree to pay the donation, they give just 10 rupees or 5 rupees or 20 or 30 rupees. And these representatives of Madrasas, despite this misbehavior, go from door to door, room to room, house to house, knock every door to collect 5 or 10 or 20 or 50 rupees. Some of us drive them off, some of us use abusive language against them, some advise them to leave the Madrasas, some of us say to them “you cheat the people” but no one asks them, ‘please come in my home, have a tea, have some cold water’, or ‘please have lunch with us today or tomorrow’. Most of us throw hundreds of questions on them for giving just 10 or 20 rupees, such as ‘where are you from?’ ‘Who are you?’ ‘Give details of the madrasa,’ etc. And at last, unwillingly, grudgingly and resentfully we agree to give a mere 10 or 20 rupees; while thousands rupees are being spent in purchasing an item just because our children like it.



Students of a Delhi madrasa.
This is the harsh reality of Muslims’ behavior with the representatives of Madrasas. We feel hesitation in donating just 10 or 20 rupees, while a particular class in the Muslim community always blames the Ulema, targets Madrasas and its education system. This class always demands computer education to be taught there. Can anyone let me know how much the cost of one computer is? How many people have gifted even one computer to any Madrasa? If anyone gives computer or funds to Madrasas, in return he wants to be listed as one among the members of the Madrasa and wants to interfere in the Madrasa’s education system. I ask the common Muslim how much he pays for the education of his one child in an English school. It may be Rs 5000 or Rs 6000 per month; however, the cost of education of a Madrasa student for one year exceeds no more than Rs 5000. Madrasas themselves bear the cost of books, breakfast, dinner and lunch and so on; no one goes there to ask the officials of Madrasas how they arrange meals every day for hundreds and thousands of their students.
We want high-class and well-rounded graduates to come out from the Madrasas. We, however, face trouble in giving a mere 10 or 20 rupees as donation. A family can spend thousands rupees just for the happiness of their children; a family can purchase puppets, video games, CD players, and so on and on but when donating a few rupees they think these Madrasa people have made them bankrupt and penniless.
Same is the situation of Imams in our country. An Imam is paid Rs 2000 or Rs 3000 normally, and it may come to Rs 5000 if the Masjid is big. Most of the Masjids are being run by donations and with the help of Muslims. Sometimes, the Masjid administration faces difficulties in giving even this salary to the Imam; how do we expect the Imam to sustain his family with such a small amount?
No doubt, there are hundreds and thousands of Muslims whose donation, help and sacrifices are helping the owners of Madrasas to run these institutions without a hope of prize or award.
I would like to say, the Ulema have besieged themselves within the boundaries of Madrasas and religious education only. Rest of the field is left free for the entire Muslim community. Why are they not trying their luck in these fields? The Muslim community is in need of good doctors, engineers, scientists, architects and so on.
When it has been made clear that only 4% or less than 4% go to Madarasas for education, what about the rest 96%?
There are many rich Muslims, and there are hundreds of scholars, professors and others whose salary and monthly income is more than one lakh and who have great respect, relations and sources within and outside the community. Why are they not trying to build another university? Why can’t a network of schools and universities be deployed across the country?
In these 63 years, the Ulema established a network of Madrasas throughout the country, collecting one rupee and two rupees and suffering a lot of difficulties. Then why can’t these powerful leaders gift any new university to Indian Muslims?
First we have to change our attitude, our behavior and our manner. Change our minds and be ready to make sacrifices; nothing will change if we continue to blame the Ulema and madrasas.
Differences and oppositions have a place in every community, but in the Muslim community it is being used as a tool to escape from discharging the responsibilities.
If every Muslim does his own work, I think no one can stop them from arriving at a higher position in the world. If every professional Muslim does his work in his field well he will see the result in just a few years. The society will be changed and Muslims will shine, if only they do this.
In this society in which voices arise against the Ulema and Madrasas, we can see that two small children, who were living in slum areas and were from poor families, won the Oscar awards and found no problem in achieving these goals. How did this happen? Muslims have to think about it hundreds and thousands of times.
Many times, we saw in Delhi, non-Muslim boys and girls from very poor families reading, studying and finishing their home work sitting on small broken beds beside the road, where there were noises and crowds of rikshaw-pullers and passersby. In spite of all this, and under the heat of the sun, these boys and girls were busy studying. Can Muslims take a lesson from them instead of blaming the Ulema and Madrasas?
I would like to say to all Indian Muslims that their problems could be put to an end within just a few years if every Muslim decided to play a pivotal role in building the community and the country. 
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Power of Influencing Others and Gaining their Confidence

"Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; ….
My interest in this topic has taken many years.  I have been looking in books of psychology and psychoanalysis for the effective ways to influence others positively. Who is not of us who does not deal with others and wish to leave a good effect on them? And who of us who does not wish to gain the trust of those around him and give a positive impression of his character?  But what is the way to achieve that?
My brothers in Allah! I have found several techniques that man can use in his daily life and during his dealings with community. He will influence others positively and gain not only their confidence but their love.  These techniques were introduced by Dale Carnegie, the most famous American writer and who was considered to be the best writer of the past century. He introduced these techniques as a result of tests conducted for more than thirty years.
What drew my attention was that what the writer introduced was exactly what the Quran had introduced!!  He says in his book "How to Win Friends and Influence People":
The First Way: Avoid Arguments
The best way to win others and influence them is to avoid arguments! Try to shorten talk to the minimal possible, because arguments weaken trust and thus the power of your influence on others wanes.
This way was introduced by the Quran since fourteen centuries in Almighty's saying, "Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious: for thy Lord knoweth best, who have strayed from His Path, and who receive guidance."[An-Nahl: The Bee:125].
Here, the Quran has not forbidden us from debating, but he ordered us good argument since avoiding arguing is not practically possible. There are individuals who you cannot gain their confidence unless you debate with them.
Herein, I wonder of those skeptics of the Apostle's message. If their views of The Prophet of Mercy were true, why would he command us to argue in a good manner? Why we were ordered good preachment. The only explanation for the existence of these teachings in the Quran was because it is the Book of Allah Almighty.
The Second Way: Avoid the Anger and Emotion
The American writers said that your way to handle problems should be based on kindness, softness and wisdom. Try to detach from emotions, anger and tension, because emotion leaves negative effect on others and sends them a wrong idea about your character.
Here, we remember again the advice of the Great Prophet (pbuh) to the Arab individual and which he repeated so many times: (Do not get angry… Do not get angry… Do not get angry…) and we remember Almighty's saying, "who restrain anger, and pardon (all) men;- for Allah loves those who do good" [Al 'Imran: The Family of 'Imran: 134]. Subhaan Allah! Consider with me the Quranic way in shaping the believer's character, forgiving people, managing anger, not rushing or being emotion, all those give positive effect and leave good impression in the hearts and minds of those around you.
The Third Way: A Good Word is More Effective
A good word is the most important way that psychologists advise in influencing others.  It is unnecessary to tell someone he is wrong if he makes a mistake in front of you.  Call attention to his mistakes indirectly by choosing good words to express yourself, and this way will leave a wonderful effect among those who are around you.
Here, we come back to Almighty's Book when He says, "speak fair to the people" [Al-Baqara: The Cow: 83]. Almighty says, "Seest thou not how Allah sets forth a parable? - A goodly word like a goodly tree, whose root is firmly fixed, and its branches (reach) to the heavens,- of its Lord. So Allah sets forth parables for men, in order that they may receive admonition. It brings forth its fruit at all times, by the leave of its Lord. So Allah sets forth parables for men, in order that they may receive admonition." [Ibrahim: Abraham: 24-25]
Dear reader, try to choose the best words to address others, and be a good listener. Do not talk much, but try to listen because this will lessen your mistakes and present you in good shape in front of others, nevertheless, man likes to be listened to.
Almighty says, "O ye who believe! Fear Allah, and (always) say a word directed to the Right: . That He may make your conduct whole and sound and forgive you your sins: He that obeys Allah and His Messenger, has already attained the highest achievement." [Al-Ahzab: the Clan: 70-71].  These verses bear out that a believer has to put words in the right situation. By doing so, Allah will fix his deeds and this way will be the reason for success in this World and the Hereafter.
The Fourth Way: Do not Stick to your Mistake
Psychologists and Carnegie among them confirmed that admitting being wrong is a merit that raises you in the eyes of people. Do not try to prove the correctness of your view and you know you are mistaken, but try to be soft in your discussion and admit mistakes. This way will give others an impression that you are genuine and thus increases their confidence in you and your influence on them.
The Prophet (pbuh) stated this technique in his saying, (All Adam's sons are erroneous, but the best of those erroneous are the repentants)  That is to say that the best work to do is to admit  mistakes in front of Allah Almighty, repent to Him, and apologize  about what you have done wrong to those you had hurt.
The Fifth Way: Honesty is the Shortest Way to Win Others' Confidence
We see the Western World provides genuine treatment, not only because their religion commands them to do so, in addition to that most of them do not have a religion, but because they found that honesty is the base of success in life.  Therefore, psychologists vindicated that the shortest way to win others and influence them is honesty in what you say and what you do.
Here, we remember The Right Almighty says, "O ye who believe! Why say ye that which ye do not?  Grievously odious is it in the sight of Allah that ye say that which ye do not. "[As-Saff: The Ranks: 2-3]. And He says, "O ye who believe! Fear Allah and be with those who are true (in word and deed)." [Al-Tawba: Repentance: 119]  There is a great verse that I found a strange power in it to cure the lying phenomenon which spread these days with light speed.  This verse addresses us and says, "it were best for them if they were true to Allah." [Mohammed: Muhammad: 21]  If everyone kept these divine words and recalled them at the time he encounters a situation where he may tell a lie, these words would be the best remedy for lying, and a reason for keeping us away from lying and this is what will help us to win others' respect, their confidence and our influence on them.
The Sixth Way: Refrain from Using the Word "No"
Try as possible as you can to keep away from it because it is a negative word! Instead of saying to someone why he did that or do not do so, change this statement with a positive expression e.g. what about doing so!! Or do not you think this is better to do?
This way was discovered by Neuro Linguistic Programming experts in people who are successful, wealthy and famous.  They found that their way in dealing with others is based on advice and not faulting others, defaming and reprimanding them.
Here, I do not find a better example than the one the Greatest Prophet offered when he was served by Anis Bin Malik for ten years. He did not hear from the Apostle (pbuh) the statement (why you did so) and did not hear a reprimanding expression or any negative expression, but the Prophet of Mercy (pbuh) used positive statements in dealing with others, and this is what we should do.
The Seventh Way: Arrogance is the Worst Attribute Man can Have
Psychologists consider arrogance as a thick barrier that detaches you from the love and respect of others, and thus you influence them negatively.  There are several studies that confirm the importance of modesty in winning others' confidence, and keeping away from greed, envy and other reprehensible characteristics.
The Prophet (pbuh) preceded psychologists in giving us the most wonderful formula for winning love of others when he said: (Renounce what people have, they will like you). Consider these words of The Prophet and which if we use; we will solve most of the age problems.
Allah forbid arrogance strongly, Almighty says, "verily He loveth not the arrogant." [An-Nahl: The Bee: 23]  Who humbles himself to Allah, Allah Almighty will raise him.  This technique in dealing with others leads to gain their confidence, because Allah has created man on a natural inclination for philanthropy, modesty and honesty. Therefore, following these techniques in dealing with others as if you are addressing their depths, and their nature and thus you positively influence them and this what we all aspire to.
I conclude this article with an idea I arrived at after years.  This idea is that all the true and certain facts which psychologists has discovered, the Quran has told about before fourteen centuries!!  Our role as believers who claim to love the Quran is to originate this science to its Quranic origins, and we aspire to be in the best grade in front of Allah. The way to that, we follow The Prophet of Mercy in his practices and his way of handling problems and his way of dealing with the community.  We ask Allah Almighty to let us be part of those He said about, "They are those on whom (Descend) blessings from Allah, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance." [Al-Baqara: The Cow: 157].
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By: Abduldaem Al-Kaheel

References:
www.guidetopsychology.com
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THREE QUESTIONS !

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THREE QUESTIONS

There was a young man who went overseas to study for a quite a long time.  When he returned, he asked his parents to find him a religious scholar or any expert who could answer his 3 Questions.  Finally, his parents were able to find a Muslim scholar.


Young Man:
Who are you? Can you answer my Questions?
Scholar:
I am one of Allah’s (SWT) slaves and Insha Allah (God Willing), I will be able to answer your Questions.
Young Man:
Are you sure? A lot of Professors and experts were not able to answer my questions.
Scholar:
I will try my best, with the help of Allah (Subhanahu Wata’ala).

Young Man Says:

I have 3 Questions:
Question # 1
Does God Exist? 
If so, show me his shape
Question # 2
What is Taqdeer (Fate)?
 
Question # 3
If shaitan (Devil) was created from the fire, why at the end he will be thrown to hell that is also created from fire.  It certainly will not hurt him at all, since shaitan & the hell were created from Fire.
Did God Think
Suddenly, the Scholar slapped the young man’s face very hard.  Young man (Felt Pain): why do you get angry at me?
of this far?
Suddenly, the Scholar slapped the young man’s face very hard.  Young man (Felt Pain): why do you get angry at me?
Scholar:
I am not angry.  The slap is my answer to your questions.
Young Man:
I really don’t understand.
Scholar:
How do you feel after I slapped you?
Young Man:
Of course, I felt pain
Scholar:
So do you believe that pain exists?
Young Man:
Yes.
Scholar:
Show me the shape of the pain!
Young Man:
I cannot.
Scholar:
That is my first answer.  All of us feel God’s existence without being able to see His shape…Last night, did you dream that you will be slapped by me?
Young Man:
No.
Scholar:
Did you ever think that you will get a slap from me today?
Young Man:
No.
Scholar:
That is Taqdeer (fate) my second answer…my hand that I used to slap you, what is it created from?
Young Man:
It is created from flesh.
Scholar:
How about your face, what is it created from?
Young Man:
Flesh.
Scholar:
How do you feel after I slapped you?
Young Man:
In pain.
Scholar:
That’s it.  This is my third answer, even though Shaitan (Devil) and also the hell were created from the fire, if Allah wants, the hell will become a very painful place for Shaitan
  
Allah said:
“If you are ashamed of me, I will be ashamed of you.” 

If you are not ashamed, pass this message on…only If you believe…
Yes, I love Allah, Allah is my fountain of Life and My Savior.  Allah keeps me going day & night.  Without Allah, I am no one, but with Allah, I can do everything.  Allah is my strength. 
May HE help U to Succeed.. Ameen
ALLAH DOES EXIST…
This is one of the best explanations of why Allah allows pain and suffering that I have seen:
A man went to a Barbershop to have his hair cut and his beard trimmed.  As the barber began to work, they began to have a good conversation.  They talked about so many things and various subjects when they eventually touched on the subject of Allah
 
The Barber said: I don’t believe that Allah Exists.
Why do you say that? Asked the customer.
Well, you just have to go out in the street & realize that Allah doesn’t exist.  Tell me if Allah Exists, would there be so many sick people?
Would there be abandoned Children? If Allah existed, there would be neither suffering nor pain.  I can’t imagine a loving Allah who would allow all of these things.  The customer thought for a moment, but didn’t respond because he didn’t want to start an
The Barber finished his job and the customer left the shop.  Just after he left the barbershop, he saw a man in the street with long, stringy, dirty hair and untrimmed beard, he looked dirty and unkempt.
argument.
The customer turned back and entered the barbershop again and said to the barber: You know what? Barbers do not exist.  How can you say that? Asked the surprised Barber.  I am here, and I am a Barber, & I just worked on you!
No! The customer exclaimed.  “Barbers don’t exist because if they did, there would be no people with dirty long hair and untrimmed beard, like that man outside.
Ah, But Barbers do exist! That’s what happens when people do not come to me.”
Exactly, affirmed the customer.  “that’s the Point!

Allah, too, exist! That’s what happens when people do not go to HIM and don’t look to HIM for Help.  That’s why there’s so much pain and suffering in the World”.
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Book of LIFE.....

You  are about to open  –

Are  we Obsessed with acquiring…

Money,

Property,

Prestige  ???

 When  we die,

all  our Money, Power, Property…

All  Possessions pass on…

To  belong to somebody else  !

 What  remains ?

In  the sands of time  …

Not  much !

 Only memories remain,

in the minds  of those people

that we have  helped !

 What  would you wish to  leave behind you …?

Beautiful  remembrances

of  happy times !  

 Or
Pages  you wish you could  tear out forever...?  

 Today  you have been given  a grand opportunity

To  re-write with a fresh  sheet –

Make  your own script ...

It’s  up to you to choose  the colors –

Even  in adversity, you can  add soft pastels of  serenity....

 If  you knew you had  only one more day  to live –

How  would you use this  precious time ???

 Would  you now be able  to appreciate the golden  rays of the sun…  the gentle breeze?

–  a page that you will treasure.

 Enjoy  this new day ! 

–  Take inventory of all the good things in your life

Live each hour with cheer.

 Love  and affection for the  special people in your  life

– all the things you never did

before  it’s too late …

 People  we sometimes take for  granted

– tell them how you feel !

Offer  a helping hand…

 Live  each day, as if  there was no tomorrow  !

Be  Happy

Give  Thanks

 PLEASE  FORWARD THIS MESSAGE  OF JOY

TO  ALL


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A leper, a bald-man and a blind-man

Teaching stories have been used throughout time as a way to transmit wisdom. In Hadith literature there are a number of stories that have been related by Prophet Muhammad in the context of teaching valuable lessons for humanity.
The following story is related in Sahih Bukhari (004.056.670) Translated by Thomas Cleary
The Prophet told a story, "There were three Israelites, a leper, a bald man, and a blind one. In order to test them, God sent an angel to them."

The angel came to the leper and said, "What would you like most?"

He said, "A good complexion and good skin, and riddance of that for which people have considered me unclean."

Then the angel passed his hand over him, and his uncleanness disappeared from him, and he acquired a good complexion.

Now the angel said, "And what would you like most to have?"

He said, "Camels." 


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Results for MGT4110 (sem 2, 2010, 2011)

There are 41 people who did the assignment.

- 33 said that they felt happier [this ranged from 'very happier' to 'a little bit happier'], which is about 80%

- 2 students did not really answer the question [5 %]

- 6 students said that they liked the assignment but did not feel any different, which is about 15%
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